Are you struggling with chronic pain or other persistent physical symptoms? Do you feel stressed or overwhelmed?

Believe me, I know where you're at because I have been there too. I know how lonely, exhausted, sad, desperate, afraid and overwhelmed you can feel in the face of physical pain and the stress that often accompanies it. I also know that you are doing your best and that none of it is in any way caused by you. The pain we feel is real however it shows up and whatever you think about it. Whether there is an obvious physical injury, or something we can't see, the pain we feel is never imagined in any way. Our brain is just doing a very good job protecting us, and sometimes it overprotects by sending pain even if an apparent tissue damage is no longer there. If that is the case, the protection may be about something else in your life that is out of balance.

I hope you can see the hope in this! Your brain is an incredible computer, and to know more about how it works is what can give you a different and easier experience of life. Everything becomes easier to handle when we understand how it works. Pain as well. And although pain is never to be ignored, fearing it, resisting it or being hypervigilant about it, will not change it. Understanding will.  

I want to tell you that there is hope despite how hopeless it may look to you now. There is hope of experiencing less pain and stress by seeing something universal about how the human mind works, what pain and stress are and how your brain is always trying to protect you in the best way it knows how.

My reason for wanting to share this with you is because of what has changed in my own life after trying everything I came across to feel less pain and stress. The physical tension was through the roof and I didn't know how to get away from it. I had no trust in my body and tension and pain kept building as I was trying to hold myself together. I felt as if I was breaking apart and it all felt scary and hopeless. Please be kind to yourself and believe me when I tell you that a life with less pain, symptoms and stress is possible. A life where pain and different emotions will still show up because it is part of the human experience, but where you are not defined by them, is possible. A life where you can feel every emotion and sensation there is, and not be so afraid of what it means about you, is possible with a deeper understanding of where our human experience is coming from and what pain is.   

If you are struggling with pain or stress I hope you find something useful and hopeful here. Life is truly never hopeless despite how it may look or feel. You are truly never broken despite how it may look or feel. I know from personal experience that we are so much more resilient than we think and that there is a part of us that is unbreakable no matter what life throws at us. There is always hope. After all, we are still here.  

After all, are we without natural resources to live life? It's what we're here to do. I should think our design comes with some built-in tools to help us navigate. 

What do you think?

What if?

What if

you could experience less pain? What would that mean to you?

What if

pain and symptoms are messages to be gently listened to instead of trying to push away? And that being curious about what pain is will make pain feel less solid?

What if

you could stop being so afraid when pain shows up?

Learning how and why our brain sends us pain is useful and can change our relationship with pain. It's like having lived locked inside a tight cage and suddenly realising that the door is open. That is empowering! 

Stress is often a part of the mix when we experience chronic conditions, whether it is pain or anything else, and it often makes symptoms worse. I think anyone who has experienced any chronic condition knows this. It's not enough though to know that stress is a contributing factor. Learning and understanding how stress works and how it is created from the inside is what helped me reduce my stress levels dramatically.  When we think stress is coming from outside circumstances we feel out of control and helpless. When we see that stress can only be mentally created by our brains it makes it easier to navigate. We can teach our nervous system to be more at ease with anything that shows up when we know how the system works. Less stress equals less pain and symptoms. It's all part of the same system. When your mind calms down, your body does too. I don't expect you to take my word for it - explore for yourself! Feel what's going on in your body when your mind is racing!

We are made to be in fight or flight mode for only a short period of time. When we are constantly stressed, the whole system takes the punch. Our bodies are always communicating with us and sending us feedback. At first the messages can be subtle, but when we don't listen, our bodies will scream at us to do something differently.

When we learn what causes us to feel stressed, and no, it's not your boss, your partner, your children, or your pain, we become empowered and can start living a life with less tension and pain. And this is not to say that people don't have challenging and less than optimal circumstances, they certainly do, but the experience of anything is always projected to us by our brains and never comes directly from anything outside of us. That is a science-based fact. Feel free to look it up if that looks different to you.   

The true healer is greater understanding

- Angus Ross

Yes, Angus! This is spot on!

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All we are is peace, love and wisdom, and the power to create the illusion that we're not.                      Jack Pransky

What if this is really true? What would be the implications for you if it is? It is worth considering and reflecting on.  

My name is Kjersti Ane Østvik and I'm a mum of two, a wife, a cat owner, a reader, a writer, a food lover and a Dr. Amy Johnson Certified Change Coach. I would love to be your companion and guide on your path to rediscover your own wellbeing, resilience and innate health, the way I have been guided and continue to be guided myself. It is lifechanging to discover how resilient you are and how much resources you have built-in to your design. What if your mental health has nothing to do with your brain and your psychology? What if mental health is something that we're all born with and that is part of the energy of life that we're all made of and connected through? What if traditional psychology innocently has it backwards? What if we're innately well and healthy and then we have some sticky psychology temporarily covering over it? What if it is possible to look beyond your psychology? What if we think because we are and not the other way around? It's a profound and life-changing difference and relly worth considering for yourself.

 

After all, are we without natural resources to live life? It's what we're here to do. I should think our design comes with some built-in tools to help us navigate. 

What do you think?

If you're anything like me, you have already tried every approach there is to experience less pain and stress. And almost everything I've tried has had some impact, but in my experience real and lasting change happens when something fundamental shifts in us, from the inside out. What would it be like to look at yourself from the perspective of health rather than from a perspective of what is seemingly lacking? What if you can experience peace and a sense of balance, despite physical symptoms, diagnoses or pain? Healing may be about more than the pure physical side of things. What does that look like to you? Is happiness possible with a physical disability or pain? I should think the answer is yes, given that our experience never comes from any circumstance, but from within ourselves. 

That said, I believe anyone can have a different experience of pain, and less pain, with understanding. 

What if deep, lasting change does not start with changing your behaviour?

If you’ve tried everything but nothing has led to the sustainable change you want…
it’s time to look in a different direction. 
      Dr. Amy Johnson

What is a Certified Change Coach?

I am a graduate of Dr. Amy Johnson's Change Coach Training Program. Her course is based on a revolutionary new paradigm in health that taps into our natural, innate wellbeing and resilience. A Change Coach goes through extensive training and is taught how to help you break free from your habitual thinking by seeing how all humans work on a universal level. 

I would be honoured to explore with you how your mind works to protect you against perceived threats, and how you can see through that and not be taken along for the ride every time your brain tells a story, whether it is about pain, the future, you or anything else. As you begin to gain more clarity you will see a shift in your perspective and discover that you are not your busy mind. Your busy mind is talking about you constantly, but it's more like a narrator. That's not who you are. I can tell you it's an exciting journey of discovery and who knows what may show up for you along the way? I think on some level most of us know that we're not our brains or our thoughts or our bodies, but to know that on a deeper level is a game-changer. The journey has no end point as we can always see things in new ways and have different perspectives and insights along the way all through our lives. That is both exciting and hopeful! And with more understanding, there is less tension. 

The iceberg analogy

I love Dr. Amy Johnson's iceberg analogy to explain how lasting change can happen by changing your understanding of the mind. If you compare your worry, pain and stress to an iceberg, this approach can help you increase the temperature of the water to begin melting the ice, instead of chipping away at it from the top. Lasting change comes from the inside out by seeing something new and profound that changes how you view yourself. It is going beyond the psychology of your mind. 

A change in perspective

Change can start in the safe space of a friendly conversation. Together we'll explore how we all work as human beings and where our experience of life is really coming from. What if our experience of life is always presented to us through our thoughts and mental activity? What if what we see is not really what is out there in the world or in our bodies, but a projection of what is there as our brain interprets it for us moment to moment? I would love to explore that with you and help you see yourself and your pain and stress differently. 

There are

no techniques

no strategies

no homework

There is only understanding and seeing something new about yourself and how you innocently get caught up believing your own thinking, and look to what is there beyond that. What might that look like for you?

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Please send me a message if you have any questions or reflections you want to share. I would love to hear your story and how you see life. You can also drop me a message if you would like to explore what working with me one-to-one might look like

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What if your persistent pain and physical symptoms are kind messages rather than something to be afraid of? Pain and symptoms that persist aren't always about something physically wrong, but could point you to look somewhere deeper

A testimonial from one of my lovely clients

Coaching with Kjersti was always a beautiful experience for me. Her presence creates a beautiful atmosphere of peace and acceptance that causes your mind to calm down completely and makes you see there are no problems in your life. Her insights into states of anxiety and fear have helped me to see much more for myself and have deepened my sense of peace and trust in life. Kjersti uses her own experiences with chronic pain and anxiety and her knowledge of science and understanding , which is why sessions with her are so powerful and authentic. Her story and coaching gives you hope that nothing in life is lost and change is possible in any circumstance of life. I am very grateful to have met Kjersti.

Jitka Hanzova, Czech Republic

There are more testimonials on the testimonials page

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Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.  Albert Einstein